7 important life lessons learned

There are so many Life Lessons I’ve learned over the years. Here are 7 important life lessons learned. I hope you are able to get some wisdom from them.

Focus on things that will enrich your life and not things that will make you rich

7 important Life LessonsLearned :

Prayer and Thanksgiving

Courage and Diligence

Affirmation and Confidence

Love and Relationships

Fear and Anxiety

Patience and Perseverance

Anger and Forgiveness

Prayer and Thanksgiving

7 important life lessons learned

Prayer and Thanksgiving

We need to be thankful always. This is God’s will. Although it is easier to give thanks only during the good times,  we must remember that when we give thanks during good times, God will remember us during the difficult times.

The reason for our thanks is not only to thank Him for what He has done. But to thank Him for Who He is. For His magnificence, His splendor, His mercy, His provision and His promises.

Even in times of trouble, as difficult as this may sound, always approach trouble with prayer and thanksgiving. God will help us during our darkest times. Now understand that God always answers prayers. His answer may not be what we are expecting but He will answer. While we cannot comprehend His wisdom, we need to put our trust in Him. That is all He is asking. Trusting God shows the depth of our faith in Him. We need to trust that He knows what is good for us.

Let God be our first point of call always. Many people try to fix their problems themselves and end up worse than they started. No matter how difficult things get, praise God and put your trust in him. Remember, after every difficulty comes ease. Sometimes God in His mercy and greatness may take our troubles away immediately and at other times He will make us go through them to strengthen us and renew us, either way, He is with us through it all.

Prayer is guaranteed to bring tranquility and chase away worry. Be of good cheer.

A life without God is meaningless. Don’t go about life chasing after things that won’t benefit you in the long run. Ask God for the wisdom to live according to His will for you. This is the true success.

God called the earth into existence. He knows the stars by name.He is surely sufficient for you. He is more than able to meet your needs. To Him belongs all the glory. He is enough for you.

Make God the center of your life.

True success is having the fear of God and following His commandments.

Courage and Diligence

7 important life lessons learned

Courage and Diligence

 

Don’t be afraid of your problem, confront them.

Courage is the ability to do something in spite of our fears.

Diligence is consistency, persistence, and discipline put together. It means staying on course, enduring despite obstacles and opposition and doing the right thing even when you don’t feel like, in order to accomplish your goal.

Be bold and have courage. If you don’t have courage, pray for it. You will need it. I always pray for courage and wisdom for myself and my family every day. You need the courage to face your fears and wisdom to do the right thing.

For most of us, this may not be easy. Trust in God and lay your plans before Him. He will direct your steps. Remember that no matter where we are, we are always in the presence of God.

 

Affirmation and Confidence

7 important life lessons learned

Affirmation and Confidence

Always aim for victory. Go for your destiny Do not get comfortable where you are. Always strive for the best no matter what but do so with the right motive.

Stay away from mediocrity. Take action and do not give in to fear and procrastination. Procrastination steals much more than your time.

Don’t let your past defeats hold you back, always thinks in terms of where you are going and where you want to be and hold those thoughts firmly in your mind.

Live your life from a place of enthusiasm and passion. I know people say find your passion to truly live. While this is true, you don’t need to make the excuse of doing nothing, till you figure out your passion. Do what you can now. Do it with vigor and enthusiasm. and your passion will find you.

Trust in God and do not doubt.

Don’t dwell on the reasons why you can’t do something today.

Eliminate all excuses and replace them with words of affirmation.

For example;

Do not say this is too much for me— say, By focusing on small things, I can accomplish great things

Don’t say I am too old—-say, The age of my body has no bearing on what I do or who I am.

Do not say I am too scared—- say, I can accomplish anything I put my mind to because I know I am not alone.

Do not say I am not strong enough— say, I have access to unlimited assistance. My strength comes from God

Read, Excuses be gone, by Dr. Wayne Dyer. It is he lists 18 different affirmations you can say in the place of excuses. You can get it here

Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits

 

Love and Relationships

7 important life lessons learned

Love and Relationship

To the world you may be one person but to one person you may be the world- Bill Wilson

The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt withing the heart- Helen Keller

“You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness. We pardon to the extent that we love. Love is knowing that even when you are alone, you will never be lonely again. And great happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Loved for ourselves, and even loved in spite of ourselves.” -Victor Hugo

 

These are all popular quotes that depict the essence of love.

To a child, love is spelled T.I.M.E – Zig Ziglar

This means we must give our undivided attention to those we love. Love is giving our time, our energy and ourselves.

We’ve all heard that communication is the key to a lasting relationship. This extends even beyond our spouses, our children.

When we communicate, we should do so with love, we should listen more than we speak, we should listen with the intent to understand.

Love should not be blind but it should believe the best.

Love is Kindness. It is Empathy, it is Forgiveness, and it is Sacrifice.

You cannot communicate effectively without trust. Trust is based on truth, loyalty, commitment, character, and integrity. I recommend the speed of trust by Steven Covey. He talks a lot more about having trust on a personal and relationship level. The SPEED of TRUST: The One Thing That Changes Everything

You cannot stay angry at someone you are consistently praying with and praying for. Pray for your spouse, pray for your children.

Honor your relationship

Don’t compare each other, don’t keep tabs on each other’s faults, overlook minor faults but talk about those that bother you before they become an issue. Always keep the line of communication open with respect and kindness for each other. This way you will know whats important to your spouse.

More importantly, learn to meet the emotional needs of your spouse. Know what love means to your spouse and how your spouse perceives love. In the book  The 5 love languages by Gary Chapman, he explains how emotional needs vary from person to person.

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

According to Gary Chapman, the 5 love languages are;

Words of affirmation

Gifts

 Acts of service, 

Physical touch and lastly,

Quality time.  

Once you know the emotional needs of your spouse, it goes a long way in strengthening your relationships. I will advise that you review these needs with your spouse as they may change as we grow. It is also possible to have more than one emotional need. I the early part of my marriage, receiving and giving gifts was an act of love. Fast forward 14 years and 3 children, I still enjoy giving gifts as an act of love but I would receive acts of service or words of affirmation and encouragement than gifts.

Be forgiving towards one another.

Please note that you should not tolerate abuse of any kind. If you are in an abusive relationship. SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY.

Lastly, Make your number one relationship your God to whom all things return. That is the key.

The best marriage advice I received.

Never ever assume!  

This is the best marriage advice I ever received.  It helps me to keep things in perspective and not overanalyze or let my imagination run wild.  If you think something is wrong, ASK. Don’t assume you know the reason for a certain behavior. Don’t get into the habit of “he does that all the time or she does that all the time”. Do not read meaning into things. And never assume you know what someone is thinking even though you may get it right sometimes. Only God knows what is in a person’s heart.

 

Fear and anxiety

7 important life lessons learned

Fear and Anxiety

 

Fight anxiety by praying.

I once heard someone say “there are so many things to think about but nothing to worry about”. We worry when we are afraidWhen we worry, we are focusing on the negative things in life. Focus on the positives, count your blessings. Have an attitude of gratitude. Let gratitude become part of you. Transform your energy from worrying to believing. Yes, fear and worrying take a lot of energy and it takes much more than that. It can be physically and emotionally draining. It robs us of our peace and gives us suspicion and ungratefulness in its place. We are constantly tensed and think the world is out to get us. It makes us lose focus and perspective so we exaggerate the problem tenfold. We must keep our focus on God and let Him be our refuge.

Don’t let your worries be your center of attention. It will drive you into desperation which causes you to make more poor choices. We have to have faith. Faith honors God and God honors faith.

Keeping our Focus on God helps to keep a good perspective on things and not to get crippled under the weight of the problem

Don’t keep your emotions bottled up. Talk to others and seek help when you need to. Surround yourself with positive people and people who have overcome similar circumstances.

Ask God to show you the root of your fears and anxiety.

Don’t let your problems have power over you. Do what you can. Increase your skills if you need to.

“Things seem to turn out best for those who make the best of the way things turn out”-John Wooden

Patience and Perseverance

7 important life lessons learned

Patience and Perseverance

I once read that patience is standing strong in the midst of what we cannot change. Patience is having strong endurance in the midst of difficulty.

Having patience is not a passive trait. It does not mean sit down and do nothing. Patience means having strong resilience and perseverance. It is believing that God will see you through. It is knowing that life is a test and as we go through these tests, our character is being developed.

How do we act when we have disappointments, illness, divorce, tragedies, job loss and financial woes? We need to have hope. Hope is having confidence in God. It shapes who we are, It shapes our character. Someone told me “trouble produces patience and patience produces character”

With patience and perseverance comes hope. With Hope comes joy. How can you have joy in the midst of problems you ask? it’s because joy isn’t necessarily the absence of problems but knowing that the presence of God in with you.

We are to seek Gods help through patience and prayer. When we remember his promise we will not despair. God says “call on Me and I will answer”.

Anger and Forgiveness

7 important life lessons learned

Anger and Forgiveness

 

Have you ever had those times when you were mad at yourself for not doing something you ought to have done? or doing something you weren’t supposed to do? In those situations, anger can act as a motivating force to set us straight.

But when anger is out of control, it becomes a dangerous emotion. Anger is a feeling of frustration towards oneself or towards someone you think

might have done you wrong. If it is not under control, it can lead to resentment which can lead to damaged relationships as well as emotional and physical pain.

Forgiveness, on the other hand, is giving up any anger or resentment you may have towards anyone including yourself. It is a deliberate willingness to lay down the hurt and bitterness you have against someone.

While this is not an easy thing to do, it is the freeing thing to do. It frees you from the clutches of a holding on to a negative emotion such as hostility and rage and lets you experience the freedom of a forgiving heart.

Forgiveness teaches us to have compassion and grace. Each time we forgive we have chosen an act of grace, just as God shows us grace. It is also an act of sacrifice as you willfully lay down all your hurts and pain. It is one of the most unselfish things you can do.

Forgiveness releases the grace of God to act in our favor. Remember, you need open hands to receive, you cannot keep a clenched fist and expect to receive something in your hand. Holding on to unforgiveness is like having a clenched fist. It robs you of the opportunity to receive your blessings

When you forgive, it may take time, but it cannot be selective. It has to be complete. Don’t let pride get in your way. Don’t let fear hold you back.

Forgiveness is not easy but it is freeing.

“The art of forgiveness is the secret to a contented life”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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